Welcome to Gay Sex Ed, Grindr’s sex column for responsible, credibly-sourced sexual information for men who have sex with men (MSM). Now, many years later, the app that pushed me to explore my sexuality is giving me the opportunity to do the same for others and, honestly, I couldn’t be more thrilled. So one night after a few too many vodka-Gatorades (don’t judge), I created a Grindr profile, complete with one-just one-photo of my headless torso, as most questioning men in the suburbs do.

I mean, I thought I was gay, but I’d never dated or been intimate with a man before.